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Avery Gallows wrote: 20 Jan 2022, 02:42

Eliza Corrids wrote: 20 Jan 2022, 01:03

No... she's to precious. I love her! (... And no. Her family saw her go through a phase where she had rainbow interest and put her in counciling at a young age... _{I swear I didn't just come up with that nope no sir-})

hi imma pop in here for a hot sec just because this comment was very insensitive and honestly made my heartbreak for all the people who have been murdered for being queer or sent to conversion therapy. I am going to put the rest of this in reducio as a trigger warning for homophobia, general mental illness, and religious trauma.

Reducio

okay so basically I want to touch on a few things I have noticed in this community, touching on how some write about and speak about topics like mental illness, familial trauma, homophobia etc. i think a large part of this is due to an influx of younger members, which while there is nothing wrong with being younger, you may just not understand the severity of your comments.
Conversion therapy, the topic that kind of is the last straw, is not therapy. It is where a person (often a child or teen) is humiliated, degraded, and oftentimes abused in some capacity --> verbal, physical, emotional or sexual. It is honestly not 'fun' or 'quirky or 'spicy' to add this to your character's life. To start with, real-life triggers of this sort are never okay without large, clear warnings, permission from others you are threading with, and from staff. If you think something is too violent, chances are it is, but always ask staff. For many, including myself, HiO is a safe place to go to escape the toxicity of real life, and coming onto site to see this, it hurts. This community is also very queer. I will never speak out against religion or someone's beliefs, but, if you speak in hate, I will have issue with you.
In addition to this comment, there has been an influx of characters who have mental illnesses. I, as someone with a myriad of diagnoses, am all for the representation of anxiety, OCD, depression etc in adolescents. That being said, depression is not simply being sad, OCD is not being clean and anxiety is not be worried. There is so much more to all of these experiences.

Overall, I want this community to stay safe. If you have any questions about this please owl me or dm on discord ~ pastel princess#5581. I am happy to help with sensitivity readings or point you to someone who may be better than I am, I am happy to assist in research as well on any of these topics or others. I also do not want anyone to think this a direct comment against them, but rather me sharing some thoughts on a pattern I have seen emerging over the [last few months.