Solomon Lear wrote: 16 Dec 2024, 00:31

Tracey Bailey wrote: 13 Dec 2024, 14:53

The story i'll be sharing with you, isn't mine. It's about what happened yesterday with my sisters boyfriend.

There's this new girl attending his school, and somehow has the exact same class as him. No one thought it would be a problem, until yesterday, the day she made her movie. When he arrived at his school yesterday, and was at his locker, the girl gave him a love letter. Obviously he was going to reject her, but she wouldn't take no for an answer. Then at lunch time, he was once again at his locker, but she made a very bold move. She forcefully kissed him, he didn't kiss her back and tried to push her away, but she wouldn't let him and she bit his lower lip to the point where it was bleeding. The good thing is, one of his friends saw them and separated them. He then immediately called my sister and told her everything, then she told me when she got home. I gave her some advice, but she wants to know what you guys have to say about this.

That is not only harassment, that is physical (caused him to bleed) and sexual assault. If in school, report it. Consider legal action, specifically a restraining order and/or for them to put them in separate classes. Do not allow him to be alone for his safety and ask the girl to leave if she is around. There is no 'this is inappropriate', this is criminal behavior. If a minor, they will likely be given unreasonable leeway, but it is a reasonable ask to have this person separated from them in terms of classes and locker assignment and to consider expulsion if it happens again. The fact he has a girlfriend is irrelevant, no means no and it does not mean maybe because he is single. He has the right to say no.

Thank you so much for your advice. Action has been taken against the girl. He has a restraining order and has 0 classes with her. She'll be suspended for a month after winter break is over, and she'll have to write a written apology to him and if she doesn't learn from this, she'll be expelled.

Aurelia Valentine wrote: 16 Dec 2024, 08:46

Solomon Lear wrote: 16 Dec 2024, 00:31

Aurelia Valentine wrote: 13 Dec 2024, 06:41 Can someone explain to me why I feel like I'm constantly treading on eggshells or thin ice every day? I feel like I did something wrong; although I know I didn't. I feel like a horrible person everyday for no apparent reason. I get the shakes randomly every day, upon the realisation that I probably don't deserve some things. I question myself every day, if I'm actually living. I feel like a void, I feel nothing. I try to feel good about myself, I practised compassion and empathy. I'm active about using my platforms to spread news about matters that happens around the world. I advocated for women like me, I shamelessly defend someone helpless. I give. I advocated for beings that contributed in the ecosystem too. I disgustingly overeducated myself, to feel smart and respected and not to be underestimated. I educated myself about things that needs to be known out there. I love and despise humanity. And yet, I feel like an imposter. I feel like I'm fabricating myself, I feel like I was actually lying. Although it was all genuine. All the things I do is for everyone else. But I feel like I'm a melting candle; I feel like I'm already losing sense of myself. Is this really me? What have I become? Does people think I'm horrible too?

I don't actually expect for someone to understand or reply. I just feel like venting this years of frustration. 😆

This is not intended to be mean or negative. I encourage you to see counseling and the assistance of a mental health expert. Sometimes you are not able to modify the brain chemistry on your own. If you do not make the Serotonin, Dopamine, Endorphins or Oxytocin that you need, then store bought is fine. It is also possible that simple talk therapy will be enough. But I can only urge you to seek valid, licensed assistance.

Yup, figures. A friend told me to seek assistance from a mental health expert too. •́⁠ ⁠ ⁠‿⁠ ⁠,⁠•̀
Thanks, Headmaster. I'll try to reach out to the nearest hospital here. I'm not exactly keen on medication, so therapist it is. It has been like this since I became self-aware; I just didn't like asking for help because one: I hate asking for help, and two: seeking help will only make the matter seem more real (I might, perhaps, still be in a state of in-denial 🤦🏻‍♀️). Thanks again for the advice!

I agree with seeking professionals to make u feel good with urself. Until then, from my personal experience, I feel like maybe focus more on what you love about this world and what excites you (for me Harry Potter, space, and math!). Feel proud and confident about urself! Ignore your doubts! You made people's day! You deserve more than u have! Set a big life goal and work towards it so that it will distract you from all negative emotions! When You feel that u live for a very important purpose, it will make you feel better;)

Yougle Crenshaw wrote: 17 Dec 2024, 00:44

Aurelia Valentine wrote: 16 Dec 2024, 08:46

Solomon Lear wrote: 16 Dec 2024, 00:31

Aurelia Valentine wrote: 13 Dec 2024, 06:41 Can someone explain to me why I feel like I'm constantly treading on eggshells or thin ice every day? I feel like I did something wrong; although I know I didn't. I feel like a horrible person everyday for no apparent reason. I get the shakes randomly every day, upon the realisation that I probably don't deserve some things. I question myself every day, if I'm actually living. I feel like a void, I feel nothing. I try to feel good about myself, I practised compassion and empathy. I'm active about using my platforms to spread news about matters that happens around the world. I advocated for women like me, I shamelessly defend someone helpless. I give. I advocated for beings that contributed in the ecosystem too. I disgustingly overeducated myself, to feel smart and respected and not to be underestimated. I educated myself about things that needs to be known out there. I love and despise humanity. And yet, I feel like an imposter. I feel like I'm fabricating myself, I feel like I was actually lying. Although it was all genuine. All the things I do is for everyone else. But I feel like I'm a melting candle; I feel like I'm already losing sense of myself. Is this really me? What have I become? Does people think I'm horrible too?

I don't actually expect for someone to understand or reply. I just feel like venting this years of frustration. 😆

This is not intended to be mean or negative. I encourage you to see counseling and the assistance of a mental health expert. Sometimes you are not able to modify the brain chemistry on your own. If you do not make the Serotonin, Dopamine, Endorphins or Oxytocin that you need, then store bought is fine. It is also possible that simple talk therapy will be enough. But I can only urge you to seek valid, licensed assistance.

Yup, figures. A friend told me to seek assistance from a mental health expert too. •́⁠ ⁠ ⁠‿⁠ ⁠,⁠•̀
Thanks, Headmaster. I'll try to reach out to the nearest hospital here. I'm not exactly keen on medication, so therapist it is. It has been like this since I became self-aware; I just didn't like asking for help because one: I hate asking for help, and two: seeking help will only make the matter seem more real (I might, perhaps, still be in a state of in-denial 🤦🏻‍♀️). Thanks again for the advice!

I agree with seeking professionals to make u feel good with urself. Until then, from my personal experience, I feel like maybe focus more on what you love about this world and what excites you (for me Harry Potter, space, and math!). Feel proud and confident about urself! Ignore your doubts! You made people's day! You deserve more than u have! Set a big life goal and work towards it so that it will distract you from all negative emotions! When You feel that u live for a very important purpose, it will make you feel better;)

Thank you very much for saying that! I appreciate your comforting words as well as Juniper Kelly’s. I hope you have a great day ahead!

I usually don’t post things like this but I guess I’ve been needing some advice. Family member is still in the hospital, someone messed up on the surgery which has caused the person to be absent the last 2 weeks. In these two weeks, I have became the parent for my two younger siblings. I am so stressed, and to add onto that I never have a moment of alone time (as an introvert).

To add onto that, I’m usually a very closed person, so I’ve only talked to one person about it. My friend group has had a lot of shifting and new relationships, and I’m afraid the stress will get to me and I’ll just blow up on everyone and say hurtful things.

Everything in my life feels like I’m carrying a heavy weight and hoping it doesn’t crash down on me and everyone around me.

@Ava Winchect

Awk Ava pet 💛

Let me say right now that you're a resilient individual. The fact that you've been able to soldier on despite all that stress is admirable on its own! I wish you and your family member my best wishes and snugs! ❤️

Speaking as someone who has to do most, if not all, of the heavy lifting for a family member myself, I can sympathise with how overwhelming that can be. It's definitely an experience I don't think anyone is really prepared for so don't push yourself so hard on that front.

The best advice I can really give you is to keep breathing through the tension. If there's a little space in your house or somewhere you like to go, take yourself there and take deep breaths. 10-30 seconds alone to yourself is enough to help give you that little bit of clarity. Breathe in all the good stuff, release all the negative stuff... I know it doesn't sound like a lot of time, but believe me, it's enough to go "Okay, this is happening. Just a little further...!" There's always light at the end of the tunnel! Whatever happens today will stay within "today" and tomorrow is brand new!

And I know all about being an introvert... After friend groups broke down years ago over the most ridiculous things, I chose to remove myself from all of that chaos and kept to myself until I reached uni. Aside from the friends I made at uni who will soon be graduating and getting ready to move on to other things, I've hardly anyone else to talk to.

But I have all of you guys! And that's what you have, sweetpea... All of us! We're always here if you need someone to talk to! And that includes me! My owls are always open ❤️

I think you should start giving yourself a bit more credit. You're brave, resilient, strong and believe it or not, you're doing really well!

You've got this! Have a wee bit of faith and I can promise you things will be okay! 🥰

@Ava Winchect

Wow Ava, you’re going through a lot of changes at once and it must be very stressful.

It can be hard to reach out to people you know, especially with friendship changes, but I’m glad you reached out here and to that one person. There are people here for you and if you ever need anything, feel free to Owl me too.

You ARE carrying a weight around but you don’t have to do it alone. You just took on two kids and it doesn’t matter if they are babies or teenagers, it’s a lot.

If you feel you’re about to explode on people you may want to tell them, even briefly, that you are dealing with some stressful family matters and may not be yourself. You don’t need to open up your heart and soul to each friend but just letting them know you’re under some pressure and that’s why you’re more aloof or less chatty (or possibly more needy and more chatty!) and may not be your usual self, will help them understand and prevent a blow-up from you or misunderstanding from them.

I wish I had some advice that would solve it all. I can say self-care is important and with kids it becomes even harder to practice. Sometimes you’re going to have to say no to certain things or people, and you don’t need things to be perfect. Throwing in a frozen pizza, blasting music for an hour while the kids run around frantically (or whatever age they are will depend how loud your music is and if they’re telling you to shut it down or not… or sleeping… or dancing along…) and you sit eating chips on the couch is an example of self-care. So is taking a relaxing bubble bath -ALONE- while someone watches your kids/sibs, but that’s not always possible…

The point is – life can get hard but we are here for you. Take care of yourself, whatever that looks and feels for you and your family.

I know some words on a page won’t change your situation but I hope you find some comfort in knowing there is a whole community that cares about you.

You are a great person.

Hi guys. I usually don't post here or anything, but I just don't really know what to do at the moment. I feel dizzy and scared, because today I heard that my grandfather is probably dead. We were always very close, and I'm not sure what to do right now but my head is spinning and I feel helpless. He might be in coma, we don't know yet. The holidays were already stressful because he's been very sick for years but just gotten worse. Tomorrow me, my little sister and my mom are flying there to help out. I just feel like crying but I need to stay strong. He was the strongest person I knew and now I need to be strong for him and the rest of my family.

Lyanna, I'm so sorry you have to go throw this. Losing a loved one is really hard. Sending hugs and chocolates your way

Lyanna Oak wrote: 16 Jan 2025, 21:13 Hi guys. I usually don't post here or anything, but I just don't really know what to do at the moment. I feel dizzy and scared, because today I heard that my grandfather is probably dead. We were always very close, and I'm not sure what to do right now but my head is spinning and I feel helpless. He might be in coma, we don't know yet. The holidays were already stressful because he's been very sick for years but just gotten worse. Tomorrow me, my little sister and my mom are flying there to help out. I just feel like crying but I need to stay strong. He was the strongest person I knew and now I need to be strong for him and the rest of my family.

Oh, Lya! I'm so sorry! I will be praying for you and your family! Sending love your way! *gives Lya big hug*

You're allowed to cry and still be strong.